Sunday, 31 May 2015

Lessons Life has Taught Me . . .



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Life would be so much easier if we could be born smart and not have to make so many mistakes along the way.   However, that was not the plan and I am grateful for all of the lessons my life has taught me through the years . . .  even if some of them did come a bit late.  They do say better late than never.   I'm holding to that!

Life isn't fair.   I think I learned that one very early on.  Rich people get richer.  Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people.  The rain falls on the righteous and the unrighteous alike.   God is no respecter of persons, and there is no such thing as a charmed life.  Sometimes you get all the broken crayons and sometimes the only crayon you can get your hands on is the black one.  It doesn't really matter.   Bloom wherever you are planted.  Make the most of every situation.   Find the silver lining.  There is always, always, always some good to be taken from every situation if you choose to look for it and find it.  Life may not be fair, but remaining positive makes all the difference in the world.  Nothing every got better by moaning about it.  Trust in the light at the end of the tunnel.  Know that it is always, always there.


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Don't bear grudges.   Get over it.  Hate no-one.    This type of behavior only ever hurts one person and that is yourself.   The person who you are bearing a grudge towards, or are busy hating, seldom if ever knows or even cares how you feel about them.  What a waste of time and energy . . . and purpose.   Revenge is not sweet.  Christ taught us to love our enemies.  A few years ago when I was home for my mother's cancer op, my cousin was singing at their church on Mother's Day evening.  As mom was still in the hospital I went to the concert and took my daughter Eileen, her husband and their friend along with me.   What a great time we had.   Just before the concert started, my ex husband's wife . . .  the step mom . . .  came in and proceeded to sit right behing me.  When I told my son afterwards, he wondered that I could enjoy the evening, and weren't the hackles on my neck up.  I told him, I wasn't going to let her spoil anything more for me than she already had and that it probably bothered her more when things like this didn't bother me, than it did if they had.  (If that makes sense.)   Was I entirely comfortable with her sitting right behind me.  In all truth, no . . .  but I wasn't going to let her ruin what was to me a lovely evening.   Sometimes in life you just have to be the bigger person.


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Life isn't about winning every argument,  always coming out on top or even about winning at all.  Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree . . .  or give someone else the chance to shine.   People are entitled to their own opinions and they don't always have to jive with yours!  Not winning doesn't make you a loser.  The only thing that matters is that you did your best and had a good time trying.  We should be able to rejoice in the successes of others without feeling like we have lost out in some way.  Being a sore loser only makes you look and feel bad.   It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.


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It's okay to cry sometimes.   Tears are like a healing balm.  It does not make you weak to feel sad or to mourn.  It makes you human.   Crying with a friend, is a gift to that person and to yourself . . .  empathy and sympathy, are both good things.  A problem or a sorrow shared is a problem or a sorrow halved.   Know that God counts every tear.


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People make mistakes and are human.  We all make mistakes and are human.   Don't carry your past into your future like an anchor around your neck.  Make amends and move on.  Make peace with your mistakes.    Learn from them, and then put them aside.    There was only ever one perfect person who lived on the earth and He was crucified.   His sacrifice paid for our mistakes and short comings.  Accept that.   Go and sin no more.   Know that though your sins be as scarlet, He will wash them as white as snow.  Trust in that and carry the past no more.  Be at peace.   Let Him pick you up, dust you off and carry you when you feel like you just can't carry yourself.  Forgive others.  Always.  No matter what.


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Don't waste your todays in waiting for better tomorrows.  Be happy now.   Love now.   Try now.   Today can still be very good, even if tomorrow might be better.   Don't worry about things you have no control over and hand the rest over to God.  Just as you shouldn't live in the past and let it ruin your todays, you must learn to be content in the now.  Joy comes when you learn to love what you already have.  There is no sin in wanting to better yourself . . . wanting to better yourself or your circumstances is a good thing . . .  but not at the expense of today.  Use those special dishes you save only for celebrations.   Wear that dress.   Burn those candles.   Today IS a special occasion, even if it seems mundane . . .  this day will never come again.  Make the most of it that you can.


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Know that you are in charge of your own happiness and your own destiny.  Nobody else is.  Don't compare your life to the lives of others.   You only see what they want you to see.    You have nothing to fear except for fear itself.  Aim and reach for the stars and then believe you can and will touch them.  The only failure in life is in not trying.  Believe in miracles.  Believe in yourself and in the power of your dreams.  If you want to be a painter, paint.  If you want to be a writer, write.   If you want to bake cakes, bake cakes.  Live each and every day of your life and make the most of them.  If you have any doubts at all  . . . just don't . . .  don't do it, don't think it, don't go there, don't listen, don't watch . . .  just don't  . . .


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Stay out of debt.  It is an anchor around the neck and it limits your life and your potential.    If you can't pay for something outright, it's not worth having.  Save up for the things you want.   They will mean more to you when you finally get them.   Don't keep anything that you don't love or can't use.  Don't buy anything that you don't love or can't use.   There are only a few things worth going into debt for.   Education and a home.  Both are investments in your future and can make the difference between having a comfortable old age and not having a comfortable old age.  When you are young, you think you will never get old.   You WILL get old, and if you haven't prepared for it, you WILL wish that you had.


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Make the most of what you have while you still have it.   Walk far and walk often.   Sing like nobody is listening.   Dance like nobody is watching.  Laugh.  Cry.  Buy some red shoes and then wear them. Paint your toenails green, or purple or pink.  Put that bathing suit on and go swimming.    Make each day worth remembering.   Don't spend it watching other people live their lives.   Stay active.  Do things.  LIVE.  LOVE.  LAUGH.


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Above all . . .  love.  Love.   LOVE.  Love God.  Love Self.   Love Others.  If all of your thoughts and actions  and days are embroidered with love and with service and with care  . . . . your life will be a good one, a full one, a meaningful one.  A life that mattered.  Be generous.  Be kind.  Be honest in all of your dealings.  Be strong . . . in body, in mind, in character.

Never lose hope or lose faith.  In yourself.  In others.  In God.   Especially in God.  Pray often and pray with sincerity and faith.  Know that prayers are always answered.  Maybe not the way we expect them to be, maybe not when we want them to be . . .   and maybe not with the answers we want . . .  but always to our own good.   I think it was a Garth Brooks song which said that some of God's best answers to prayer are seemingly unanswered prayers.  Trust in His goodness and in His love for you.


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I have developed a cough.   Blah . . . probably being in the hospital on Friday.   They say that if you want to get sick, go to the hospital! haha

We were able to get in touch with our landlord yesterday and he was as flabberghasted at the letter as we were.   At the end of the day it is his father's house.   He spoke to his sister and then called us back.  Supposedly the letter is for us to take to the council and then the council will make up the difference.   He is living in cloud cuckoo land.  That is not how it works.   We already get the maximum in housing benefit that we are entitled to.  If our landlord puts up our rent we are just supposed to suck it up and live with it, or move to somewhere cheaper if we can find it.  IF being the key word here.   WE will take the letter to the council and then they can write the landlords and tell them they are living in cloud cuckoo land, or maybe the council can find us a cheaper place to live.   Here's hoping. ☺  Things will work out.   They always do.

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Cooking in The English Kitchen today  . . .  Strawberry Buttermilk Bundt Cake.

Have a wonderful Sabbath.  I can't believe that tomorrow is the first of June!  Don't forget . . .

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And I do too!!


13 comments:

Suze said...

Good morning Marie,

I hope that the council is able to help you with this letter and your housing.

Enjoy your day and I am hoping to absorb some more of your words as some of them are most wise.

God bless.

Suzan

Marie Rayner said...

Thank you Suzan. It took me almost 60 years to get this smart, lol haha. I hope you have a good day too. xoxo

Gloria Baker said...

Aww Marie! Im absolutely agree!
Yes the years make us more smart!

What cute pictures:))))
Hugs!

Marie Rayner said...

Thanks Gloria, they are all me. I wish I was still that cute! haha oxox

kate hazlehurst said...

Hi Marie. Just catching up with your blog. I was in Devon last week and have been so busy with work this week I have only just had time to sit down and catch up. I'm so pleased about your eyes, they are so precious. I thought it was strange that your rent wasn't increased when your windows were put in, it's very rare to get something for nothing these days, especially from landlords. But I certainly hope you can get it sorted, it's an awful lot extra to find. I would hate it if you gave up your blog Marie. I know I don't always comment but I always read them, even if it's several at a time (like now!). I also often think about you and how you are, especially on your very happy days and your very rare sad days. I feel as though I know you well enough to feel happy and sad with you, if that makes sense! Over the years I have followed a few different blogs and two in particular I followed for many years. They were both in America and were the stories of their families and both were having horrendous journeys due to various illnesses and poorly children. I got so involved in their stories and was devastated when they both stopped blogging within six months of each other. It was like someone had ripped out the last vital page of a really good book. But I understand they must take a chunk out of your time and other things now have to take priority. Anyway, wishing you a lovely week , lots of love xxx

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Life does teach us lots of lessons and sometimes I have to learn the lesson more than once in order for it to sink in. Every day I learn something new and sometimes the lessons are not easy ones at all. It does sound as if your landlord is determined to get more money. Hopefully you will find a solution to it or a place that is within your budget. One way or another all will be well. Housing is much different here than you have it there. So I'm not sure what your council can do, but it won't hurt to try. We never know what can happen unless we try. Hope you have a wonderful Sunday !

Marie Rayner said...

How lovely Kate, Devon is beautiful. I was down there once when we went to visit Todd's Aunt Doris. It was about 12 years ago now. We have always said we would go back, but haven't yet. Must put it on my bucket list. I get up really early in the morning to do my blogging. Often before the birds. This blog will be updated regularly even when we are on our mission, it's the food blog that will suffer, but it is what it is. I know we will be blessed for serving. I hope you have a lovely week also! It was so nice to hear from you. xoxo

Pam, I think it is a shame that we don't get to be so smart until we are older! haha. I know all will be well, it's just we are such impatient creatures and want answers to our problems now. I am working on patience. It is an ongoing thing. Hope your sunday is blessed xoxo

Sybil said...

Sorry I am very late in commenting today MArie. However I did pop in this morning but found you missing !! you must have been very late getting this big worded blog done..especially with all the lovely photo's of you when you were "wee" you were delightful...
Hope that you have had a good day. We started very wet but dried up around 11 and although sun did get out it has still a cold wind. don't suppose I will get in for next few days as we are away tomorrow around 8,30am be back Fruday Keep well until then. I hope to hear good news from council after tomorrow.. Much Love winging it's way north xxx

Valerie H. said...

Great messages for today and adorable pictures. Also, it looks like hope in the rent situation. There is always hope but it seems like something can be done. Praying for that for you both and Mitzie Doodle dog! I had my day dream of...what if you were out of a home there, then you could go on a full time mission. The church would send you here to the Colorado Springs Mission. Mitzie could stay with us and you could see her every day. Like I said, a day dream. Not exactly the ideal situation for you guys(I don't think) but for me. ;-) Because I would get to see you everyday for a year!

We had a great Sabbath. Wonderful talks at church and then our home teacher came after church (He's the Stake President and a good friend of ours). Now to get into comfy clothes, do some reading and watch a show. Hope your Sunday was full of good things! Love you!!! xoxo

Marie Rayner said...

I was probably a bit later getting it done yesterday Sybil! Srry about that! Sometimes my words carry me away! I hope you have a truly wonderful week away and that it's not too cold or wet. Love and hugs! xoxo

Thanks Valerie! In an ideal world that would be possible, lol It's a nice dream however. We had a friend pop over last night also. Love you too! xoxo

Sandie said...

Hi Marie

Sorry to hear you are having problems with the landlord/rent. I won't swear to this, but I think if you send or take your letter to the housing office, that they can arrange to reassess what the rental value of your property is especially if you had improvements done since it was last evaluated. So you might get all or some of the increase covered. If they only cover some of it then you could go back to the landlord and tell him that he is overcharging and maybe negotiate a lower amount. Hope you manage to sort something out.

LeAnn said...

I loved every word of this one. You are such a gifted writer. In fact, maybe you should look into submitting something like this to a magazine. You words were full of wisdom, faith and love and we need that in today's world.
You gave such great counsel.
I hope things go well with your housing. I am sure it will. We just need to keep praying and it will work out.
Blessings for you dear friend and sending lots of love and hugs your way.
Thanks again for an inspiring blog post; you are the best!!

Marie Rayner said...

Hi Sandie, we have sent the letter to the housing office. We;ll see what happens. xoxo

Thanks so much LeAnn. You are so kind. Thanks for the blessings love and hugs, many winging their way back to you as well. xoxo