Saturday, 9 May 2015

Saturday Musings . . .



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This is me when I was nineteen.   I look at this photograph now and think to myself . . .  "Why did I not know I was pretty?"  Not in the drop dead gorgeous way . . .  but just pretty.  I did not know it then.  I had no confidence or belief in myself.  I was incredibly naive.

I had never been clubbing, or on holiday.  I had never travelled very far from where I grew up and spent most of my formative years.  I had only had two steady boyfriends.  I had never gone to University, just college . . . I had never lived on my own.  I was in a really big rush to get married because I had been brought up to believe that a woman needed a man to take care of them, that a woman wasn't deserving of an education . . .  only a man . . . because a man would have to provide for a family one day.

If I could go back and tell my nineteen year old self a few things I would tell her to  . . .










 










 

Paint your fingernails green, or purple, or yellow, or black . . . or even bright red if that is your thing.   One day you will be an old woman and old women don't wear green, or purple, or yellow, or black nail polish.























Make up your face!  Wear eye liner and eye brow pencil and red lipstick (or whatever colour you want to wear!)  Celebrate your beauty and your youth by making the most of what you have while you still have it.






















 Play with your hair.  Do magical things with it while it's still full and luxurious and beautiful.   Don't worry if it is straight or if it is curly.  Pile it up on top of your head in a messy bun with curls cascading down your neck, or braid it, or do a multitude of things with it that are possible.   Celebrate it.




 


















Buy and wear cute shoes.  While you still have ankles and slim legs . . . and feet that can stand to wear them . . .


 



















Have fun with your toenails while you can still reach them and before you get bunions.




 

















 Celebrate your assets, while they are still assets!






















Educate yourself!  Go to University and fill that brain with knowledge and skills so that you can get a good job, so that you can take care of yourself . . . without the aid of a man.






















Don't be afraid to lose sight of the shore.  Have adventures.   See something of the world.   Experience things and go places.

 




















Believe in yourself, and your hopes and your dreams.   Invest in them.  YOU matter.  You are special and unique and pretty wonderful.  You deserve the best because you are worth the best.






















Set goals and then work towards them.  Don't lose sight of them.  Don't let anyone, or anything distract you from the promise ahead.   Work hard.  Don't be lazy. 


































Work out.  Keep fit.   Don't be afraid to exercise.  Exercise is cool.






















Dance like nobody's watching . . .






















Sing like there is nobody listening . . .






















Take good care of yourself . . .  spiritually, physically, mentally.  You're worth the investment.

And about a bazillion other things . . .  the nice thing is however . . .  that it is still not too late to do some of those things.


















If you happen to look out your window one day and see a little old lady dancing down the street with painted toenails singing her head off, don't panic.  It's just me.  I won't be wearing heels however . . .  I'll be the one in flip flops.

A thought to carry with you through today  . . . 

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If you will call your troubles experiences,
and remember that every experience develops 
some latent force within you,
you will grow vigorous and happy,
however adverse your circumstances 
may seem to be.
~John Heywood
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Cooking in The English Kitchen today . . .  Double Crusted Blueberry Oat Crumble.

Have a great Saturday!  Enjoy it and don't forget . . .

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And I do too!




12 comments:

Suze said...

Great thoughts and very true.

I would add that learn to ignore those who are negative and upset you. Do not let them hold you back. Let the good Lord be your judge.

Marie Rayner said...

I love that too Suzan! You hit the nail on the head there as well! xoxo

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Wouldn't it be great to have known at 19 what we do today. Every young woman should be told just how beautiful they are and what possibilities exist for them. Hope you have a super Saturday ! After weeks of cool weather, we're actually hot here...

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Wouldn't it be great to have known at 19 what we do today. Every young woman should be told just how beautiful they are and what possibilities exist for them. Hope you have a super Saturday ! After weeks of cool weather, we're actually hot here...

La Table De Nana said...

Such a retty bride!
Fun post Marie;)

Marie Rayner said...

I am so glad you are having a nice warm day Pam! After the Winter you have had, it's long overdue! Xoxo

Thanks Monique! Xoxo

Sybil said...

How I smiled as I read today's blog...All so very true though Marie. It is sad that you didn't realise what a bewutiful young woman you were...However it is never to late...go on paint thie nail green !! I dare you !! mind you I have never painted my nails either any colour f or that matter.. I well remember going on holiday to London with Mum and Dad must have been the mid/late 50s. we were met by Sarah and Dad nearly had a fit,,,she was wearing RED nail varnish and had a dress that looked like it was newspaper it was cotton very short He almost ignore her LOL remember we had come from a tiny village and decent people did not wear that sort of gear LOL oor Sarah and Mum for that matter as she tried to calm things down..I thought she looked GORGEOUS...I must have been about 13 I think !!
Anyway thanks for bringing that memory back to me !! Hope you have had a good day The sun has shone down here but it is still much to cold to sit out. The strong wind is so cold...

LeAnn said...

Oh, my dear friend this was a cute one. I would say that you are so beautiful as a young bride. I would say that beauty is still there inside and out. I did love all your advice; it was awesome. I would love to see you dancing an singing down the road in your flip flops. You go girl!
Love you much and wish for you a lovely Mother's day. I don't know if it is celebrated in England; but it should be. You are the best.
Sending love and hugs your way and big blessings too.

Sharon Calvert said...

Note-worthy advice, Marie! Very much in line with http://bravegirlsclub.com/ or http://redhatsociety.com/, I think. As they say, it's never too late to enjoy your childhood (or something like that)!

Marie Rayner said...

Sybil, having spent most of my formative years in a very sheltered and rural area, my parents would have been the same. I know my father was devastated when my sister moved out West to live with a man. He would not drive her to the airport and she had to take a bus in the night before, and he wouldn't even go to the bus station to say goodbye. My, how times have changed! Glad I made you smile! xoxo

Thanks LeAnn! I had a lovely talk with my middle son on the iPad yesterday so my Mother's Day has gotten off to a good start! xoxo

They do say that Sharon! xoxo

kate hazlehurst said...

What a lovely blog Marie. I like to think that I did do most of these things.......much to my parents horror! I still wear make up and nail varnish, but alas I'm with you on the flip flops! Don't understand why you don't think you're pretty, you're beautiful, inside and out. Lots of love xxx

Marie Rayner said...

Kati! You are too kind! Thanks so much! xoxo