Friday, 21 May 2010
Home . . . where you hang your heart.
Marriage is still very much a living institution, worth all the time and patience invested in it. Marriage is the stable structure that encircles and supports two clumsy individuals learning to love and to live with each other.
~Ronna Romney and Beppie Harrison, Giving Time a Chance.
This year Todd and I will be celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary. On the one hand, it is hard to believe that already ten years have seemingly flown by . . . and on the other hand, it's hard to believe that I have not spent my whole life with this special person in it.
I never wanted to be a divorced woman. I don't think anyone goes into a marriage thinking that this will not last forever. But it happens . . . even when it shouldn't. I have learned so many things being married to my Todd, that might have been helpful in my last marriage, but then again . . . my Todd is a completely different person than my ex was, so . . . perhaps it may not have helped at all. I only know that "THIS" marriage works, and I am grateful that it does.
First and foremost, we are the best of friends. There is nothing that I cannot share with him. He shares all my joys and my sorrows and everything in between. Even when he doesn't always want to!! He listens anyways . . . because he knows that whatever it is I am talkign about . . . it is important to me, and in being so, it then becomes important to him!! It also works the same way in reverse. We have an easy companionship that rolls along like a ship rolling along the waves of an even ocean.
That's not to say that the waves are always calm though! I don't know of any marriage that never has a bit of tumult in it, and orus is no exception! Success lies in how you handle the rocky stuff. Understanding and patience is the key. We may not always agree with each other's position, but we always try to be understanding and respectful of the position that they hold. I know my weaknesses and so does he, and so too do we recognize his. That is when we need to be strong for each other and to help to hold the other up. We are the wind beneath each other's wings . . .
We love each other. No, not with the juvenile love of starry eyes youngsters who love today and not tomorrow . . . but with the enduring love of two people who care deeply for each other . . . come what may, forsaking all others, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer . . . in all times and for all times.
Ours is a union blessed in the heavens, and we have been joined together in our Holy Temple eternally in a marriage that goes beyond the boundaries of this earthly existance. Knowin gthis helps us to be even more careful with the treasure that we hold in each other . . . to uphold and honour the covenants that we have made in our Temple with each other and that we keep together. It is a sacred place to be with the one you love . . . each and every day . . . and a place I always want to be.
There are times that I wish that we had met each other when we were young enough to have had a family together, but in the next breath, I am filled with gratitude that we were able to meet at all. I am ever grateful for the Lord's timing in bringing us together. I trust that we met at the perfect time for "us." It surely would have been nice to share the bringing up of a family together, and I cannot pretend that when I see moms, dads and children doing things together as a family my heart does not ache for what might have been . . . but I know that if we do things in the way we are supposed to do them here on earth, and if we hold true to what we have promised each other and to our God . . . then He will uphold His promises to us in return and that there will be even greater things to come when we leave this earth . . . and so . . . I trust in that.
We always try to encourage each other and to be kind to each other. That is not hard to do when you are walking on a righteous path. I see in my Todd the fingerprints of God and I know he is always doing his best for me . . . how ever could I ask for or expect anything more than that. In turn, I try to give my very best back. When he falters, I try to to understand and I know he trys to understand me. We are patient with each other . . . even when it is hard to be so . . .
No . . . we are not perfect, neither one of us . . . but we are perfect for each other. We love each other, warts and all. When I look into his beautiful blue eyes . . . I see my future and it's where I always want to be. We are each other's strength and purpose and that is as it should be. We each count our blessings and hold each other close, knowing that there is no place on earth than that place where we are right now . . . two hearts hung together . . . at home, for home is truly where you hang your heart.
This is my good friend Angie, from Can You All Hear Me At The Back. I know alot of you know and love her as much as I do. She is in hospital right now with Pneumonia so if you could spare her a kind word and a few prayers it would be much appreciated. She hopes to be out in a few days, fingers crossed. We have been texting back and forth. It is hard to keep her down!
Here's a quick and easy entree that will be a real family pleaser. I like to serve this with some potatoes and a few steamed vegetables, such as green beans and broccoli. A tossed and lightly dressed salad also goes very nicely.
*Maple Glazed Ham Steaks*
Serves 3 to 4
Ham is called Gammon over here in England. A butcher told me once that it only becomes ham once it is cooked. You will see it on the menu in most pubs, usually served with an egg and some chips, or maybe with a pineapple ring on top. I prefer it this way, sweetly glazed with a tasty variety of vegetables on the side. Delicious!!
1 pound of ham (gammon) steaks
1/4 cup of Maple Syrup (don't use the pancake kind, go for the real thing!)
1 TBS apple cider vinegar
1 TBS Dijon mustard
Whisk the maple syrup, vinegar and mustard together in a small bowl. Snip the fat along the side of each ham steak at one inch intervals with some kitchen scissors. This helps to prevent it from curling up when you cook it and keeps it flatter in the pan. Brush one side of each steak with the maple mixture.
Heat a large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Spray with some non stick cooking spray. Place the ham steaks into the skillet, glaze side down. Brush the other side with glaze. Cook, over medium heat, turning from time to time, until they are cooked through, the glaze had thickened and coated each one nicely, and they have browned a bit in places. Serve hot with some of the pan juices spooned over top.
Over on The English Kitchen today?? A delicious Butterbean and Fresh Tomato Salad. Fabulously healthy!!