Wednesday, 29 January 2025

Wednesday Witterings . . .


 


We had quite a bit of snow dumped on us yesterday. Not the white goose down fluffy flakes, but fine, driving, needle-like pins. It snowed almost all day until later in the day. The wind was blustery and at times I could not see across the road. Blizzard conditions.  Oh, how grateful I was that I had no pressing need to be anywhere or to do anything but . . . just . . . be . . . here.

Schools shut down.  Restaurants closed. Not a lot was moving about.

We are expecting more today. It is -12*C/10*F at the moment.  My weather app says it feels like -19*C/-2.2*F.  So, pretty cold it is only supposed to warm up to -4*C/22.8*F today, so a cold and snowy day for us. I doubt there will be a dinner out with dad tonight.


 

I had hoped to do a video yesterday, but my day got derailed early on. I had a message from a friend to say that they were in court for Todd's parole hearing, and did I want to know what he was saying about me.  I had to think about that, but in the end, curiosity got the better of me and I said yes. 

Apparently, it was all my fault. I was not loving enough, and he was lonely. This led him to do what he did. Lack of intimacy in our marriage.  I was always led to believe that this was because I was overweight. Turned out I was just too old, but the audacity of him to put the blame on me in any case.

She told me a few other things that I won't repeat here, but I will say that my eyes were truly opened. This man was a person who never really cared for me, but only ever for himself. A malignant narcissistic psychopath. A man who preyed on the kindness and weakness in others and used it to his own purposes.  And apparently, he has been like that his whole life.  I had no idea.

Needless to say, he showed no real remorse for anything, was denied parole, and was deemed unfit to be allowed out in society. Still a danger to others. He is where he belongs and is going to stay there.

I did not cry any tears. I thought I might have, but I didn't. It did give me pause for great thought and I felt totally unable to do a video or much else for that matter. It was a wasted day.

Today is a new day and I am hoping to get one done today. I am not giving up.


 


I found myself quite unable to concentrate on much of anything yesterday. I did some work. I did some needlework. I played with the cats. I did some Scripture study. I cleaned and did laundry. I thought.  A lot. 

I did not cry, not even once.  Not even when I went to bed last night. I think that man has exhausted all of my tears on his behalf.  I will not waste another tearful moment on or over him.

I did a stir fry for my tea and sent half of it over to Sheila next door.  Stir fry is not really something which keeps well. At least I don't think it does at any rate. I knew she would appreciate it, and she did.

I had thought I might do my couch cushion covers, but I didn't trust myself to do a proper job of it as I was feeling quite distracted. It was not a day to do anything which required my concentration.


 

Perspective is a wonderful thing and now I really believe that I am ready to begin again.  That is one good thing which came out of yesterday. I feel I can shake it all off and truly put it behind me instead of carrying a portion of it with me. Brave words, perhaps. Obviously, there is a portion of it all that will always be with me, but I have put it into its proper place.  I am looking at it with new eyes and a fresh perspective.

I made a box cave for the cats.  Just a cardboard box with a t-shirt pulled across the opening.  A cat-cave. You open the box and pull the shirt over the opening with the neck opening in the center so that they can go in and out. 

Not interested in the least. 


 
Cindy's Gus


It was an idea I had seen on an Instagram reel.  I had told Cindy about it one day when I was at her place and Dan put one together.  Her cats were all over it within minutes. I don't know why mine are not all that bothered.  Maybe today. We will see.  Perhaps I have to throw some treats in there?


Some of the stuff you see in these reels is quite good.  Other stuff not so good. I am tired of seeing people abuse their animals for the sake of views.  It seems people have no limits and will subject their pets to anything in order for someone to watch. I hate that aspect of it all.  I usually leave a scathing comment and mark it as something I don't want to see. But once seen you cannot unsee it. Know what I mean?  So disrespectful and inhumane.


 


I have always been a person who cares for the environment and for nature.  I had seen people using Blueland products for quite some time now. I finally decided that I wanted to try them out and see for myself.  They are not something you can buy in the shops.  I purchased a starter kit. The premise is you buy the starter kit which includes all of the holders/bottles for all of your cleaning products and the cleaning products to put into them.  Buy the bottle once, refill forever.  And the packaging is minimal and totally recyclable.   I got a window/glass cleaner, laundry soap, toilet bowl cleaner, surface cleaner, bathroom cleaner, foaming hand soap, dish detergent and dishwasher tablets in my starter kit.  

I have been using it for a week now and am totally impressed.  The things which have scents have a smell that is fresh and natural. All of their products are tablets or powders, meant to be mixed with tap water.  Everything works very well.  Everything is plastic free. All packaging is recyclable. The refill packaging is compostable.  All inks are water based. Even the tape on their packaging is plastic free.  And they do a great job. All power. No plastic.  Its a good thing.

I have already ordered refills so that I don't run out.


 


Anyways, my plan for today is to do a simple video. One which I hope you will enjoy.  I am planning on making British Pancakes.  These are very like crepes.  There is the propensity for it to go really right or really wrong.  lol  I am taking you along with me in either case!

And with that I will leave you with a thought for the day . . . 

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The best is yet to come.
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Lemon Pudding Cakes for Two



In The English Kitchen today, Lemon Pudding Cakes for Two. Simple and easy to make with a light souffle-like lemon cake on top and a lush lemon curd pudding on the bottom.  Sized for two people to enjoy. No more. No less. Delicious!

I hope you have a wonderful day filled with light and with love. Whatever you get up to, don't forget!


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17 comments:

  1. Despicable.Despicable.Despicable.I love your life here.What a manipulator.Im sorry the whole situation keeps rearing its ugly head for you.If I had a magic wand....

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    1. Thanks Monique! I love my life here also. It's not perfect, but it's mine and I am at peace. xoxo

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  2. Typical narcissist to place blame on anyone other than themselves. He will never accept any responsibility. Visual a box in your mind to put him into. Then lock it and throw away the key.

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  3. Typical to blame anyone but himself. No wonder you were distracted. We had wind and snow overnight, a snowblower morning. Snow squalls earlier this morning but the sun is out now. School buses are cancelled again, schools remain open for those that wish to drive their kids. There is a huge push on right now to buy Canadian and support Canadian business. I have always done that when I can, but with the way prices of things are going these days sometimes you have to shop for the savings. We do what we can. Have a good day. Stay warm and safe, and I look forward to your video.

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    1. I have always tried to shop Canadian here as well. Giant Tiger has a lot of Canadian products and good prices, but you are right it is hard. As seniors on limited and fixed incomes we need to catch our savings where we can! xoxo

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  4. You are such a brave woman to bear your soul like this. Don’t give that man anymore thoughts, don’t shed anymore tears for him. He is not worth it. I guess the blizzard we had went east. Beautiful sunny day here but so much snow. Have a great day and good luck with your video.

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    1. Thanks Rosemary. You are right. He is not worth it! xoxo

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  5. No wonder Todd didn’t get parole. He didn’t accept any responsibility for his actions but instead blamed you. Yikes! You deserve better, Marie. Loved the cat-cave. What a clever idea. We got snow, too, so it’s a snow day. Stay warm and cozy. I’ll go and check for your video. Love and hugs, Elaine

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    1. You are completely right about that Elaine. Sad but true! Love you my dear friend. Stay warm and safe! Love and hugs, xoxo

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  6. Good morning Marie, I’m so very sorry that you’ve had to endure the situation that brought you to Canada…but it seems you’ve found your sweet happy heart and made a better life for yourself. Hope those tears stay away and you just enjoy HAPPY.
    Best, Virginia

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    1. Thanks Virginia. I got home and that's the important part. I am where I belong and need to be, and he is where he belongs and needs to be. xoxo

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  7. Well, certainly sounds like YOU were vindicated. Though no rational human would think the lack of a mate's actions would in any way make it ok to abuse a child!! What a creep! But so glad the courts are well aware of such behavior and are keeping him in prison. You are right...tears are a waste in such cases. My daughter still in court system as at least so far, they do all to protect pedos in her state. I am HOPEFUL someone in the new administration will fix this issue!! Hubby and I were victims of a narcissistic sociopath if not psychopath too...though it only impacted our pocketbook and our place of worship but GOD is so good...HE takes into account the plight of all. Our daughter had to leave the pedo, so we had to move to same town in order to help her with children, dog, house etc. And it all happened at the same time. So we had such an easy out in the worship place (maybe only 1 person figured out what happened even...we kept shut...just left). The person who figured it out, we think took care of things in that this woman and her pal are not being allowed into leadership we see...something they both wanted with a passion. GOD can fix things better than we can, for sure!!
    More today in our current soon-to-be leaving apt...but all verification that moving NOW is exactly spot on. At least we know we must...tho it will be so hard at our age etc. But somehow GOD and our family and their friends will see us through.
    Laters...many hugs and much love, Elizabeth xoxo

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    1. Life is just so complicated and difficult Elizabeth. I wish you well with the move. Always difficult but never more so than at our ages. I hope that you have plenty of help! Love and hugs, xoxo

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  8. Oh Marie, you have been through so much. Be good to yourself. Sending you love! And stay warm. xx

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  9. BIG HUGS coming your way, Marie! I'm so sorry that what T said/done is still hurting you. HORRIBLE! You are a brave person and I admire how you handle all this. I admire the "new day" approach... each day is a fresh day, with not "mistakes"... ;) The cat cave is amazing--what a great idea! Might have to try that with our Luna. ((HUGS)) OXOX--Tracy

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