Friday, 31 January 2025

Dear Neighbor. . .

 

 

ESTATE LANE, N.S.
-12*C feels like -18*C
11*F feels like 0.4*F
Snow to begin in about 4 hours

Dear Neighbor,

I am writing to you on a very cold January morning. The sun is not yet up. I was awake very early this morning. I had been dreaming that I was visiting the daughter of an old friend whom I had known for many, many years just prior to waking up. Oddly enough she was living in the exact house she used to live in when her mother and I were friends so many years ago.  We lived next door to each other in a row of town houses in a community near where I live now. Those townhouses no longer exist. The whole community was torn down several years back and you would never know it had existed, except for the school which is still there.  The earth has swallowed all other traces of it up.

Anyways I was dreaming that I was visiting this girl, and her family.  When I went to leave to come home, my shoes had disappeared. We looked everywhere for them to no avail and when I went out to get into my car to leave, in my sock feet, my car had been stolen. It was just simply gone, no longer there. I awoke feeling quite upset and bereft. 

I know it was just a dream. It was not real.  But often what you have dreamt during the night clings to your skin like a shadow along the length of your waking day. It can take a while, sometimes the whole day, to shake off those feelings, be they sweet or be they foreboding.  I hope this one slips off the radar of my being soon  . . . I don't know why I should dream such a thing, except that it is about loss, and I have suffered many over the last few years.




Cindy and I went out to supper with Dad last night. Dan did not feel like going out, so it was just us. We went to the place just around the corner from me, so a different place this time. We all reverted to our old picks. Cindy and dad each had the haddie bits and chips and I had the one-piece fish and chips. It was good as always. Nobody chose to have dessert.

When the waitress set our plates down one of Cindy's haddie bits rolled off the plate onto the table, so the girl got her a fresh one to replace it. These types of things happen frequently to Cindy when we are eating out.  Once at a Chinese restaurant, the spring roll she had ordered was actually on the wrong plate and when the girl went to move it, it fell off the plate and onto the table (which was not very clean I have to say.) That time a big fuss was made over it being replaced and we swear to this day that they just refried the same spring roll and brought it back. Another time I was swishing a fly away from my own dinner and it landed on top of hers upside down, doing the backstroke in her gravy.

I said to her last night it is like she is a magnet for eating out disasters. lol  Not really, but they do seem to happen to her and not the rest of us! You can't make this stuff up!


 


Several people came in while we were there that dad knew.  Of course they stopped to pass the time of day with him.  He delighted in telling each one of them that he's still here and he just turned 91. He seemed to be very pleased about that and I reckon it is something for him to be pleased about. He really has outlived all of his friends and most of his family, only his two very youngest siblings are still here, and he has outlived our mother by six years.

Believe it or not they just renewed his driving license for another five years.  He does not drive much these days, but he does drive some. Cindy does most of his driving for him. His mobility is very poor. He cannot walk very far or stand for very long and is very unsteady on his feet. He does have a cane to use, but it is really more of a hindrance as he tends to carry it, rather than use it to give himself stability.

We are all getting old now and it is our hope and prayer that at least one of us will outlive him so that he has someone to care for him. I will be 70 on my next birthday and my sister 67. My brother 65, and he has cancer.  (I pray each day that he will be okay.)  Dad is like a Timex watch. It takes a lickin' and keeps on tickin'. Except for his mobility issues and hearing, he is in pretty good shape and of good humor.

We are grateful for that tender mercy.



It was positively frigid when I went out to check my post box yesterday. I wouldn't have gone out but for the fact that I had gotten an email to say something had been delivered to it. I had forgotten how very cold January could be on the Northern side of the Gulf Stream. In the U.K. we were on the Southern side of it and we only ever very rarely suffered extreme temperatures, neither Winter nor Summer. I found it quite pleasant most of the year. 

I cannot imagine what it must be like to live in the Artic Circle. I suppose you become acclimatized to the cold eventually, but I cannot imagine. Not really. Nor do I want to. 

I am quite content as I am.  I am a person who loves the changing of the seasons. I do not think I would be very happy where each day stretched into the next all year round with little to no change.  Where the weather was always sunny and hot. I do enjoy the way the seasons are marked here in the Northern Hemisphere, and the many different blessings each one brings to us. Although there are marked similarities. Winter is always winter is always winter, etc.  There is a variance to that algorithm with some Winter's being harsher than others, some Springs wetter, some Summer's hotter and more humid, and autumn . . . blissful autumn, it is always, more often than not, just perfect. 

Yes, I AM a girl who loves Octobers.




I was thinking about my paternal Grandmother the other day.  She had 12 children who lived, not counting the three or four that she miscarried. I think that she, despite being a woman who was never well, was always pregnant. One of the joys of being a French Catholic at that time. My father was the third oldest child.  His older brother Maurice passed away when he was 16 from some kind of heart ailment, and he had a younger brother Andre who passed when he was 2 years old and a sister, Jocelyne at the tender age of 1 year old. I have vague memories of my grandmother as being a tiny, dark haired and feisty woman.  She outlived her husband by 20 years. How very difficult her life must have been.  They were always poor anyways, but she would have had to bring up the last 3 or 4 children on her own.

When my father was just a few years old, she had suffered with tuberculosis and was put into a Sanitarium to get better.  My grandfather put my father and his older sister and brother into a Catholic orphanage for the duration as he could not care for them. My father did not thrive and so an old aunt (Hilda) took him out of the orphanage and home with her. I remember my mother saying that my father could remember looking through a wire fence at his older brother and sister in the yard of the orphanage with a crust of bread in his hand, missing them very much.

Anyways, I was thinking about my Grandmama and all that she had gone though in her life, and how difficult it must have been for her to lose three children like that, plus the miscarriages, etc. She was also in a very bad car accident in later years along with her sister. Her sister died in the accident and my grandmother was in rehab for quite some time. I remember her having a scar from the accident across her forehead.

She was a great craftswoman and an invisible mender. People would bring garments to her to be mended, and you would have never been able to tell that there had ever been anything wrong with them when she was done. No moth holes, tears, etc.  It is entirely possible we get our craftiness and artistic talents from her. 


 


We, my sister and I, come from a line of strong women on both sides of our family. None of them had easy lives, or . . . perhaps that is just the way of women? Perhaps we all have varying degrees of suffering in our lives. Many suffer in silence.

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger . . . perhaps that inner strength that we carry with us is our super-power.  

I have seen it written that it's not so much the things that happen to you in life which matter most as it is the way we react to those things. I believe there is a great truth in that statement.

Our lives are lived out in days, hours and minutes.  We are being shaped daily into new creatures and the place of that formation is in the small moments of today.

It was Alfred Hitchcock who said that movies were "life with the dull bits cut out." Car chases, first kisses, interesting plot lines and good conversations.  When you think about it, it's very true. If we cut out the mundane, what is left is pretty exciting.

But the mundane, the boring . . . those moments matter too. Days that pass in ways that feel small and insignificant are weighty and are a part and parcel of the good and abundant life.

Every minute matters and counts. We all matter and count.


 


I want you to do a little exercise with me.  Right now, I want you to stop whatever it is you are doing and to look around and list 10 things that you are grateful for. I'll go first.

1. The roof over my head.
2. My heat pump which is keeping me warm.
3. My drink which is keeping my thirst at bay.
4. Two furry napping companions that keep me company 24/7
5. The purpose and meaning that I find in writing these missives.
6. Quiet and solitude, room for thought.
7. My health, such as it is.
8. My family and friends.
9. My faith and the strength that it brings into my life.
10.Having enough, and then some . . .  of everything.


I could really keep going. The list doesn't look like much, and it may not have much value to anyone else, but it is pretty powerful and valuable to me. It means I am present. In the here and the now. And it means I am grateful, and my life is a life filled with simple things which bring me great joy. A life lived with gratitude is a life filled with peace.

I am not entirely sure how I will spend my day today, but it will be spent in one way or another. It will not come again. All the small mundane moments will count and add up.  I will find joy and abundance in even them. Each moment will pass, that is a certainty of which I have no control, what I do with them, how I make them count . . . that is entirely up to me.

A thought to carry with you . . . 

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 *.˛.°Kindness. Easy to do. Easy not to do.
Choose the latter, no one will notice.
Choose the former and lives may change.
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Breakfast Omelet Tortilla



New in The English Kitchen today, Breakfast Omelet Tortilla.  Surprisingly easy to make and quite delicious.  I  know I say that all the time, but it's true!


I hope you have a wonderful day.  Be happy. Be present. Be blessed. Don't forget!

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Thursday, 30 January 2025

My Favorite Things , , ,

 



These are some of the things in life that I enjoy, and which make me happy, inspire me, or put a smile on my face. Maybe some of them are yours too.  Let's share! 


 



Watercolors, chickens and tea. Three of my favorite things in one. Art by Martyna Czub, Fresh Brewed Life.


 

French Pastries  . . .  especially croissants.


 

Matching color palates . . . 


 


Sleeping alcoves  . . . 


 


A hot drink and a biscuit/cookie . . .  loving this cup and saucer also.


 


A cozy reading corner . . . another alcove. I love alcoves.


 

Icicles. When we were kids we used to break them off and suck on them. Like a winter popsicle, without flavor.  I shudder at the thought now  . . . 


 


Simplicity . . .


 


Old wooden furniture  . . . 



 


This  . . . 


 

This too . . . 


 

Pretty pottery mugs  . . .  love this.



 


They matter most  . . . 


 


Old Cookbooks  . . . 


 


Ruffles  . . . 


 


Old black and white photographs . . .


 


Flatbreads  . . . 


 


Hares with lanterns  . . . 


 

Lace tablecloths  . . . 

 


Snow drops . . . 


 

The scent of coffee and brown sugar  . . . 



 

Teal . . . 


 

Oh deer . . . 


 

Nobody could be you-er than you . . .


 

Safety pins  . . . 


And those are my favorite things for this week!


 



I was talking to Cindy on the phone yesterday and she said why didn't I put an old blanket or some such into my cat cave.  I had a knitted blanket that was kind of tatty that my dad's friend Maryann had knitted. (a lot of dropped stitches in it I had planned to fix but didn't know how to.) Anyways, I folded it up and put it into the cat cave . . .  curiosity was immediately piqued  . . . 





It didn't take very long, and Nutmeg was in there making biscuits while Cinnamon waited patiently outside. My sister IS the cat whisperer.






This is what it looks outside now. More snow to come . . . 


A thought to carry with you . . . 

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 *.˛.°The cure for boredom is curiosity.
There is no cure for curiosity.
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Five Minute Stir Fry Sauce



In the kitchen today, Five Minute Stir Fry Sauce.  Simple.  Five ingredients, five minutes, one very delicious sauce!


It's very cold out there today and they say temperatures are going to plumet on Saturday. I dread to think!  I am so grateful for my cozy little home. Cindy and I were talking yesterday, and we said I have what a lot of people wish they had. A house all to myself and nobody to answer to. My two furry companions and control of the remote.

Have a beautiful day! Stay safe and stay warm.  Don't forget!

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And I do too!    

   

Wednesday, 29 January 2025

Wednesday Witterings . . .


 


We had quite a bit of snow dumped on us yesterday. Not the white goose down fluffy flakes, but fine, driving, needle-like pins. It snowed almost all day until later in the day. The wind was blustery and at times I could not see across the road. Blizzard conditions.  Oh, how grateful I was that I had no pressing need to be anywhere or to do anything but . . . just . . . be . . . here.

Schools shut down.  Restaurants closed. Not a lot was moving about.

We are expecting more today. It is -12*C/10*F at the moment.  My weather app says it feels like -19*C/-2.2*F.  So, pretty cold it is only supposed to warm up to -4*C/22.8*F today, so a cold and snowy day for us. I doubt there will be a dinner out with dad tonight.


 

I had hoped to do a video yesterday, but my day got derailed early on. I had a message from a friend to say that they were in court for Todd's parole hearing, and did I want to know what he was saying about me.  I had to think about that, but in the end, curiosity got the better of me and I said yes. 

Apparently, it was all my fault. I was not loving enough, and he was lonely. This led him to do what he did. Lack of intimacy in our marriage.  I was always led to believe that this was because I was overweight. Turned out I was just too old, but the audacity of him to put the blame on me in any case.

She told me a few other things that I won't repeat here, but I will say that my eyes were truly opened. This man was a person who never really cared for me, but only ever for himself. A malignant narcissistic psychopath. A man who preyed on the kindness and weakness in others and used it to his own purposes.  And apparently, he has been like that his whole life.  I had no idea.

Needless to say, he showed no real remorse for anything, was denied parole, and was deemed unfit to be allowed out in society. Still a danger to others. He is where he belongs and is going to stay there.

I did not cry any tears. I thought I might have, but I didn't. It did give me pause for great thought and I felt totally unable to do a video or much else for that matter. It was a wasted day.

Today is a new day and I am hoping to get one done today. I am not giving up.


 


I found myself quite unable to concentrate on much of anything yesterday. I did some work. I did some needlework. I played with the cats. I did some Scripture study. I cleaned and did laundry. I thought.  A lot. 

I did not cry, not even once.  Not even when I went to bed last night. I think that man has exhausted all of my tears on his behalf.  I will not waste another tearful moment on or over him.

I did a stir fry for my tea and sent half of it over to Sheila next door.  Stir fry is not really something which keeps well. At least I don't think it does at any rate. I knew she would appreciate it, and she did.

I had thought I might do my couch cushion covers, but I didn't trust myself to do a proper job of it as I was feeling quite distracted. It was not a day to do anything which required my concentration.


 

Perspective is a wonderful thing and now I really believe that I am ready to begin again.  That is one good thing which came out of yesterday. I feel I can shake it all off and truly put it behind me instead of carrying a portion of it with me. Brave words, perhaps. Obviously, there is a portion of it all that will always be with me, but I have put it into its proper place.  I am looking at it with new eyes and a fresh perspective.

I made a box cave for the cats.  Just a cardboard box with a t-shirt pulled across the opening.  A cat-cave. You open the box and pull the shirt over the opening with the neck opening in the center so that they can go in and out. 

Not interested in the least. 


 
Cindy's Gus


It was an idea I had seen on an Instagram reel.  I had told Cindy about it one day when I was at her place and Dan put one together.  Her cats were all over it within minutes. I don't know why mine are not all that bothered.  Maybe today. We will see.  Perhaps I have to throw some treats in there?


Some of the stuff you see in these reels is quite good.  Other stuff not so good. I am tired of seeing people abuse their animals for the sake of views.  It seems people have no limits and will subject their pets to anything in order for someone to watch. I hate that aspect of it all.  I usually leave a scathing comment and mark it as something I don't want to see. But once seen you cannot unsee it. Know what I mean?  So disrespectful and inhumane.


 


I have always been a person who cares for the environment and for nature.  I had seen people using Blueland products for quite some time now. I finally decided that I wanted to try them out and see for myself.  They are not something you can buy in the shops.  I purchased a starter kit. The premise is you buy the starter kit which includes all of the holders/bottles for all of your cleaning products and the cleaning products to put into them.  Buy the bottle once, refill forever.  And the packaging is minimal and totally recyclable.   I got a window/glass cleaner, laundry soap, toilet bowl cleaner, surface cleaner, bathroom cleaner, foaming hand soap, dish detergent and dishwasher tablets in my starter kit.  

I have been using it for a week now and am totally impressed.  The things which have scents have a smell that is fresh and natural. All of their products are tablets or powders, meant to be mixed with tap water.  Everything works very well.  Everything is plastic free. All packaging is recyclable. The refill packaging is compostable.  All inks are water based. Even the tape on their packaging is plastic free.  And they do a great job. All power. No plastic.  Its a good thing.

I have already ordered refills so that I don't run out.


 


Anyways, my plan for today is to do a simple video. One which I hope you will enjoy.  I am planning on making British Pancakes.  These are very like crepes.  There is the propensity for it to go really right or really wrong.  lol  I am taking you along with me in either case!

And with that I will leave you with a thought for the day . . . 

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*.˛.°Difficult roads often lead
to beautiful destinations.
The best is yet to come.
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Lemon Pudding Cakes for Two



In The English Kitchen today, Lemon Pudding Cakes for Two. Simple and easy to make with a light souffle-like lemon cake on top and a lush lemon curd pudding on the bottom.  Sized for two people to enjoy. No more. No less. Delicious!

I hope you have a wonderful day filled with light and with love. Whatever you get up to, don't forget!


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Tuesday, 28 January 2025

A Day Book . . .

 



FOR TODAY, January 28th, 2025





OUTSIDE MY WINDOW ...

Its not quite light out yet. Still quite dark, but daylight is beginning to show its head. It's cool. Just above zero, although it feels much cooler. Snow is supposed to start around 9 a.m. and continue on for most of the day. Snow and or rain for the rest of the week is predicted.


 

I AM THINKING ...

About kind hearts.  My sister's oldest daughter has a very kind heart. Just like her mother. She is always doing for others.  She is a good, good person. You can't pretend to be a good person. Or kind. It is just something you are, and who you are. I love her dearly.


 

I AM ALSO THINKING ...

This is the epitome of kindness and speaks volumes about who you are.


Classic Bake Shop Chocolate Chip Cookies


IN THE KITCHEN ...

Classic Bake Shop Chocolate Chip Cookies. This is a small batch recipe, making only 18 delicious cookies. Less dangerous to have around than a full batch would be.



ON MY "TO COOK" LIST ...

Polish Casserole from Taste of Home. A delicious mix of polish sausage, sauerkraut, creamy mushroom sauce, cheese and pasta.  Sounds and looks delicious.



 

LOOKING FORWARD TO ...

The next season of Love Is Blind. I know . . . I shouldn't be, but I just like the show. I can't help myself. It is one of my weaknesses.


 

SOMETHING NICE ...

One winter after Cindy and Dan moved down here to care for mom, Dan went out and built a snowman outside the front window to surprise mom.  She was thrilled with it.  The thought of him doing that warms my heart.  It was a really lovely thing for him to do.  He is a good man.


 

SOMETHING ELSE THAT IS NICE ...

Snowdrops. I don't have any around me, but it is always nice to see them.  The promise of things to come.




THINGS I KNOW TO BE TRUE ...

When I think back on all of the difficult times in my life, amidst the pain, I have also been able to find a treasure, a twinkle, a spark.


I WOULD LIKE TO CREATE ...


 

Knitted snowmen  . . . 



 

Knitted cats  . . . 


 

Knitted gnomes  . . . I love gnomes.


 

Knitted angels  . . . 


 


Knitted chickens  . . . 



SOMETHING I ENJOY ...

 

Toast and good marmalade  . . . 


 

OH MY GOODNESS ...

He was mighty fine in his time  . . . 


 

HOW I WISH ...

I wish this for us all.




I AM READING ...

THE LANTERN MEN, a mystery by Elly Griffiths 

Forensic archaeologist Ruth Galloway changed her life—until a convicted killer tells her that four of his victims were never found, drawing her back to the place she left behind. 

 Everything has changed for Ruth Galloway. She has a new job, home, and partner, and she is no longer north Norfolk police’s resident forensic archaeologist. That is, until convicted murderer Ivor March offers to make DCI Nelson a deal. 

Nelson was always sure that March killed more women than he was charged with. Now March confirms this and offers to show Nelson where the other bodies are buried—but only if Ruth will do the digging. 

 Curious, but wary, Ruth agrees. March tells Ruth that he killed four more women and that their bodies are buried near a village bordering the fens, said to be haunted by the Lantern Men, mysterious figures holding lights that lure travelers to their deaths. 

 Is Ivor March himself a lantern man, luring Ruth back to Norfolk? What is his plan, and why is she so crucial to it? And are the killings really over?

I really enjoy the Ruth Galloway mysteries.


THINGS I LOVE ...


 

Sweaters with cats . . .  however, I would prefer it to be a cardigan.


 

Toe beans . . . 

 

A hot drink in the Winter  . . . 


 


Neat and tidy  . . . 


 

Notions  . . . 


I AM GRATEFUL FOR ...


 

Life with all of its up and downs, ins and outs, joys and sorrows . . . and everything in between.  All of it.  So grateful.


SOMETHING TO WATCH ...



Missing You, on Netflix.  Very good.



A THOUGHT TO CARRY WITH YOU ...



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A spot where the world grows
quiet enough for the soul to speak.
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And that is my daybook for this week!  Thanks always for being here!


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Have a beautiful day!  Don't forget!  

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And I do too!