Saturday 21 August 2010

How do I look . . .

What do you notice about this image?? I know!! Angelina is copying my hairstyle!! I had my hair cut like this about 2 months ago and she shows up in London the other day with the same "do!" Clearly she reads my blog and liked what she saw! You know you have made it when the rich and famous try to look like you for a change!!

"How women look and how their looks change in the course of their lives, is not a frivolous question . . . "How do I look?" she asks as her eyes meet the eyes in the mirror. She listens carefully for an answer, because it might prove quite illuminating."
~Kennedy Fraser

Almost every time we get ready to go out somewhere special, and . . . without fail, after I have dressed myself, I will come down the stairs and the first thing I will say to my Todd is, "How do I look?" As any intelligent man knows . . . this is a loaded question, and he had better answer it carefully. Todd is smart. He always knows the right thing to say. We really don't want to hear the truth do we? And they really don’t want to suffer the consequences from having been totally honest with us do they?

In all actuality nobody could be harsher on judging us than we can be on ourselves. We really need to gently ask ourselves this question, “How do I look?” , and we need to carefully listen for the answer. Better still . . . while we are gazing into the mirror and pondering what we see, we should really ask ourselves . . . “How do I feel?” . . . for in truth, how we feel on the inside has a lot more to do with how we look, than what we are actually wearing on the outside.

Instead of concentrating on how we package ourselves on the outside we need to really change our approach to beauty completely and go for the “whole” beauty routine and approach. Being strong on the inside and beautiful on the inside is the key that can completely transform the outside. Transforming the outside begins with a strong and secure inner life. We need to let our spirits show us the way to go, whether it’s something as simple as changing our hairstyle or something as big as losing a few pounds or even our total attitude and outlook on life.

I look at pictures of myself when I was younger, and where I should be seeing a much more attractive woman . . . with a lot less wrinkles and grey hairs, I only see an unhappy person. It shows in the eyes. We all know the eyes are the windows to the soul and these pictures prove it. My soul was in a lot of pain throughout those years. Thankfully, I was able to get a handle on it and make the changes in my life that were necessary in order to change what was making me so unhappy. When I look at pictures of myself now, I see a much prettier woman and it is the transforming beauty of the soul that has done it.

Simply spending twenty minutes a day in reflection or quiet meditation, and thinking about the things in life that mean the most to you, can be the key to beginning your transformation. A long restorative walk at the end of a busy day, whilst seeking your inner self, can do more for your looks than you might imagine. Not only will you have the benefits of having caught a bit of exercise, but you will also have the mental benefits of having caught a bit of your soul and communing with it. Remember your thoughts, feelings and desires are just as important as anyone else's. Learning to listen to them and paying attention to what they are saying is really important to your inner transformation. That can’t be bad. I think if we search ourselves and are prepared to listen to the answers we find, we’ll discover that we all have exactly what we desire to begin with.

Just my thoughts on this early Saturday morning . . .

Don't you wish you could just plop down on the sofa like that and fall asleep with such abandon!!! I know I do! Doesn't little Mitzie look completely relaxed in this photo! We sure are enjoying her! I was training her yesterday and I think we have gotten the words "come," "sit," and "down" complete with the actions down pat. A little tidbit of cheese works wonders! She is laying next to me here as I type. Oh my . . . but it feels good to have an early morning companion back with me . . .

This is one of my favourite ways to barbeque chicken in the summertime. A deliciously spicy marinated bird is a real treat around here! Mind you, we haven't had a lot of sunshine in these past few days/weeks! There's been a LOT of showers around, so much so that in face the hose pipe ban has been cancelled so we can now all water our gardens! (Not that they need it now!) Anyways, this tasty chicken can be cooked in the oven as well, no problem! Enjoy!

*Barbequed Chicken with a Sweet Chili Glaze*
Serves 4
Printable Recipe

You can do this with chicken pieces or with a whole spatchcocked chicken. *(See below) The end result is a deliciously moist chicken with a finger licking spicy glaze that will have them coming back for more. Plan ahead as it needs to marinate for a bit before cooking.

8 pieces of chicken (thighs, drumsticks, breast quarters) or 16 wings (trimmed) or one (1 1/2 pound) chicken spatchcocked*

For the Marinade and glaze:
1/2 cup of sweet chili sauce
4 TBS soy sauce
4 tsp dark sesame oil
2 tsp freshly grated gingerroot
sea salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

Combine all of the marinade and glaze ingredients, mixing them together really well. Divide the mixture in half and use half to marinate the chicken in and the other half for the glaze when grilling the chicken.

Place the chicken into a non-metallic, non-reactive flat dish and pour half the marinade/glaze over it all, rubbing it in and making sure it’s all coated. Cover and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes and up to 2 hours.

Fire up your grill and remove the chicken from the fridge. Place the chicken pieces on the grill, cooking over medium heat, until the skin begins to crisp, about 10 minutes, turning once or twice. Brush with the remaining glaze and continue to cook until the meat is no longer pink at the bone, turning and brushing with the glaze as required for at least another 15 to 20 minutes. Serve.

Sometimes I get a head start on the grilling by pre-cooking the chicken in my oven for about 15 minutes. Just pre-heat your oven to 160*C/350*F and put the chicken onto an oven tray and cook it for 15 minutes before removing it and finishing it off on the grill. If you don't have a grill you can still cook this chicken totally in your oven. Once you have finished the initial cooking, continue to cook it in the oven, brushing it with the glaze occasionally for a further 30 minutes or so, until the juices run clear when the chicken is pierced with a fork and the skin is crispy and sweetly glazed.

*To spatchcock a whole chicken
: Spatchcock Chicken is an easy way to impress your guests. You're basically going to butterfly a whole fresh young chicken (buy them as fresh as possible). I buy whole chickens that already have the cavity cleaned out - if you can't find one of these, then first clean out all the giblets. Take your chicken and using a sharp pair of kitchen shears, cut down all along the side of the back bone on each side from front to rear to remove it. Once you have the back bone removed. Place the chicken on the counter, right side up and give it a sharp tap down with the base of your hand to flatten it out.

In The English Kitchen today . . . a delicious Courgette Loaf with Dried Cranberries and Toasted Walnuts. (A courgette is a zucchini!)


  1. She will never be as good looking as funny she copied you! LOL!

    I am still surprised by your long hair. For some reason I always thought you had shorter hair. Do you pull it back in a bun or something as it looks short in most of your photos?

    The inside definitely affects the looks of our outsides.

  2. Hi! Oooh that chicken sounds good! I'm going to mark this to make soon. I love sweet chili sauce so this gives me a good excuse to go stock up on it! heehee

  3. Your comments about yourself as a young woman really struck a chord in me, I have similar feelings about how I looked then too. Spooky.

    Mitzi looks totally at home, queen of the house in onre short week, it doesn't take long does it? :)

    Have a great weekend, we are off to Chirk to find a craft shop I discovered recently, just looking...

  4. I so much agree with you about theinside definitely affecting your looks. My dear Sister has a most beautiful smile that comes straight from her heart and everyone but everyone just loves her and would do anything for her...and she is surprised !!
    wee Mitzie looks just like my wee Dee when he lies flat on his back like that. They are so adorable our beloved dogs.
    Love Sybil x

  5. Thanks for the explanation about the zucchini this morning. I would not have known other wise. Beauty is more than skin deep for sure and we all have thoughts about how we look. Looking deeper is not so often done. But we should.

    I do hope your Saturday is a Super One!

  6. Oh, that is sooo funny! But you know, you look miles greater than Angelina any day, Marie! ;o) I think you look great in the longer hairstyle! Much of the time I've often felt I didn't look good, even though I tried. But inner beauty--I've learned that is more important anyway. It's taken a long time to learn this, but I've been getting there! And I think when you learn that, it definitely shows on the outside in a good way. Ah, Mitzie... She's a great beauty--inside & out! :o) Happy weekend to you all there--LOVE YOU LOTS! ((BIG HUGS))

  7. Hi Marie
    Imagine that, being copied by Angelina!! All the words about beauty that you said today were so true. Hugs, Rhondi

  8. you have a wonderful way with words. I enjoy reading your writing.

    Lovely photo of you!

    Love Leanne

  9. Love seeing your daily pictures of Mitzi -- keep them coming!

  10. I love the kitty/lion image! I usually look how I feel like looking for the day..good or not so good, my choice! ;D

  11. angelinas got nothin on you-what a copycat!!! :) great post about "whole" beauty-we can only be beautiful if we are happy!

  12. I bet she gets her recipes here, too. :-)

    Love this post, Marie. It made me smile. Thanks!

  13. My hair would NEVER grow to be that length. Or it might but it grows so slowly I would go off the idea of growing it.

    My physiotherapist when I was a kid used to call me Angelina so there you are - you had the hair first, I had the name.....what does the poor woman have left (answers on a postcard please).

  14. What news.....I didn't even know that Angelina read your blog. I am not surprised that she copied your do. However, it might have been nice if she had ask you first.

    Good advice today as always.
    I'm sending love.


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