Friday, 1 November 2024

Dear Neighbor

 

 


ESTATE LANE, NS
Unseasonably mild and mostly clear
for now

Dear online neighbors, I hope this morning finds you well and happy. It is hard to believe that we are sitting on the first day of November this morning and it is relatively mild out. I do believe that yesterday was one of the warmest, mildest Halloweens that I have experienced in many a year. I had quite a few trick-or-treaters. They started quite early with the first visitors arriving about 4:30. They were quite young however and wearing the most darling costumes.  My heart smiled when it saw them. The cats went barreling into the back bedroom at the sight, being quite afraid. That suited me just fine as I did not have to coax them in to lock them up. 

They really are scaredy cats. I know now where the name comes from.  They were truer than true scared. Poor things.





Dan really outdid himself in the pumpkin carving arena this year, having produced two very fabulous jack-o-lanterns!  He did a superb job on both of them. I was quite impressed with his artistic talents. I am sure it must have been the aid of the pumpkin carving kit that I gave him last year after Halloween that helped him in his efforts. haha  He and my brother David both got kitted out in costume.  My brothers was an old aviator's suit from the 1970's I believe he said that a friend had gifted him with, and Dan was quite fearsome.  I am quite sure he did not greet any trick or treaters with the bat.  This was purely theatrical for the photo.




David, on the other hand, sat there in his chair, with chocolate bars and packets of crisps waiting for the trick-or-treaters but they kept passing him by.  He supposed it must have been because he had no decorations up?  Who knows.  Trick-or-treating is a somewhat fickle animal.  I had some racing up my lawn to the door and others racing by. I did not have any decorations out either, so maybe there was something in David's theory.

In any case I still managed to hand out about 150 treats and finally shut my light off and closed my door at 7 pm, thinking the cats had suffered in the back room for long enough and the trick-or-treaters having petered off to almost nil.


 


Like the wild geese flying South for the Winter, my car will be flying to the service center this morning to have its Winter tires put on.  A bi-annual rite of passage, which happens every Spring and every Autumn.  Dan came over yesterday and put the winter tires in the back of my car and will be back today to take the summer ones out and pop them into the garage.  He is such a great help to me. I am blessed. to have a Cindy in my life, but I am also blessed to have a Dan. 

I am just blessed, full stop.


 


I do enjoy my little corner of the world, very much. Occasionally however there is something that disturbs it, and that I find somewhat perplexed by the insanity of others. So much so that I am considering making this blog private and open only to invited readers. I did consider taking the hateful messages left to the RCMP as well. Internet harassment and cyber bullying is very much against the law.  There is a certain someone who thinks it is funny to leave me messages that are nothing but the word "DIE" in capital letters, typed over and over again a bazillion times and with force. Well . . .  I am assuming they are doing it because they think it is funny.  I would hate to think that someone actually wishes for me to die.  Surely the world is not that nasty a place yet. 

In any case, it does cause me to rethink whether I wish to continue this blog in its present format.  I do like to think that my writing is there to be shared with the whole wide world, but then again, I am not sure if it might not be a better option for me to reduce that world to just the people I know and invite to share it with me. It is a matter for deep thought. I will let you all know so that you will have an opportunity to let me know if you wish to be invited to read or not.

At one time, I used to get thousands breezing through here nd reading on a daily basis. Now it is less than 200 and that is fine with me. Most are very good apples, but it only takes "one bad apple to spoil the whole bunch girl" as Donny used to sing. Let me know how you feel about it. I am interested. I want this to be a safe space, for everyone.



 

So again, here we are in November and things will begin to change rather quickly now.  Almost all of the leaves have danced off of the trees and are carpeting the ground, brought to life with any errant breeze. I think it is now hunting season, so one needs to take care if they are walking in the woods and wear bright clothing.  My cousin has a bear that visits him regularly, which is quite a fearsome size. I do not think I would be encouraging this type of visitor.

My father used to like to hunt and fish in his younger years. I remember him getting a deer once and it hanging in the garage.  But only the once. I think most years he came up empty handed. Our cousins would get several deer most years and my mother always enjoyed them giving her a deer steak once they had been butchered.  It was not something I ever acquired a taste for myself. But mom did like deer and rabbit . . .  and moose for that matter. 

I have never enjoyed any of it. I would rather hunt other treasures such as vintage glassware and fabrics.  No blood or guns involved.

But yes . . . the days will become increasingly colder with each day that passes now.  I remember when I first returned to Canada four years ago, the ground being quite hard and frozen, and covered with a heavy frost each morning.  

When I think back to those first days in that motel room and how very broken I felt, I can see how far I have come in the ensuing years. My heart still swells when I think of the kind message of welcome home and vase of flowers that my sister left me in the room, the fire lit.  And when I remember Eileen's cheerful visits to and from work each day, Tim as well . . .  masked greetings through the window.  The daily messages of encouragement and the many prayers of others. It was the worst of times and yet in so many ways it was also the best of times. To be so loved. I will always be grateful for that.


 

I have a few empty canning jars and I am thinking that I might like to make some pumpkin jam.  I used to make pumpkin pickles back in the day, using the cubed flesh of peeled pumpkin and they were very good. I am thinking that pumpkin jam might also be very good. I think I will search for a good recipe to try.  Pumpkin jam tarts, now those sound very good indeed.

And with that I will leave you with a thought to carry with you until the next time . . . 

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Sweet & Sour Cabbage & Tomato Soup




Cooking in the English Kitchen today . . . Sweet & Sour Cabbage & Tomato Soup. Delicious, heart and belly warming, comforting. That's a good thing. I enjoyed this for an early supper yesterday along with some hot buttered and toasted sour dough bread.


I hope you have a happy Friday and that November is a month that is kind to us all. Whatever you get up to, don't forget!


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28 comments:

  1. I know it’s easier said then done but just ignore the trolls. If you go private, they will think they’ve won. Don’t give them that satisfaction. I would most certainly love to be invited to read your blog, Marie. We had 72 kidlets come last night, a little fewer than we had expected. The cutest costume was a little 2 year old Superman. Enjoy your weekend. Love and hugs, Elaine (in Toronto).

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    1. Thanks very much Elaine! You have a great weekend also! Love you! xoxo

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  2. Blogging is not what it was.. From oodles of comments to few.. I do it for me.Sometimes I like to scroll back and see..That person is certainly not well Marie.I would just keep deleting the comments although that comment is far from one we can delete and forget about:( I am sorry someone is so very cruel.Blogging is a commitment.. It's time put aside for that.I find it shameful for someone to tarnish it by leaving disrespectful comments.But ..blogging is definitely a thing of the past.:(You have earned your happiness on Estate Lane..And sound very much like Dear Gentle Readers:) the art of writing is certainly one of your talents.

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    1. Aww thanks so much Monique. You have reminded me that I need to get back to watching Bridgerton. I am only partially into season 2 and have gotten distracted. I don't know that I am a talented writer, but I do know that I love to do it and it brings me joy. xoxo

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  3. The person who is sending you the "Die" messages is probably your husband in Britain. I assume the British correctional facilities allow internet access, they do in the US.

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    1. That is highly unlikely as they do not have internet access in the prison he is in due to the nature of their crimes.

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  4. So sorry you’re on the receiving end of cruel scary messages. That’s beyond awful.
    Your blogs are treasures. I look forward to each post. As well as your You Tube videos. The amount of effort and care you put in all your posting is appreciated. Thank you. J

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    1. Thank you so much for your support J! It is very much appreciated. Thank you for your kind words. xoxo

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  5. Most of the nasty comments come from Anonymous posters. I know you have a said a lot of your commenters are Anonymous and are friends, but I know for a fact that not offering Anonymous comments will cut the spam right down, and those friends could just get a Google account (probably already have one) and post with their name. Blogging is certainly not what it used to be, in fact I have stopped posting for others, just do it for myself and keep the site for reference. It is very windy here today, took the flags down so they don't get damaged. Lots of things blowing around. Have a good beginning to November.

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    1. I think you are right Linda. I am going to shut down anonymous commenting. I will warn everyone first however. Thank you! xoxo

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  6. Hey there Marie. Susan/MoomLily from Albuquerque here. I seldom comment because I use a tablet and typing with one finger takes forever and I haven't mastered the thumb typing! Anyway, I wanted you to know that I read your blog every morning. It has been my routine for years, even when you were back in the UK. I consider myself a bit of an Anglofile so I always enjoyed reading about your life and the goings on at the manor. Since you moved to NS, I have very much enjoyed reading about your life there as my family used to travel up there from the Buffalo NY area for a few family vacations (man that was a lifetime ago!) and I fell in love with the area. I do believe we would be good friends if we lived closer. I would be very sad if you quit blogging and would very much appreciate an invite if you go private. Besides, i have enjoyed getting to know your family and would miss them too ! As for the hateful troll, I wonder if this a real person. Could be a bot. If it is a real person, pray for them as they are truly unwell and either have a demonic influence in their life, or are mentally ill. The internet is a double edged sword used for both good and evil for sure. Anyway, I've worn out my finger 😂 Hope you have a fun day!

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    1. I feel the same, Susan! I read Marie first thing each day with my coffee, and love learning about where she lives and what she's up to. It breaks my heart to think of you getting comments like that, Marie. Like you said, hard to even comprehend someone's motivation for doing something like that. It must be hard when you rely on your blogs for income, but feel concerned about keeping them public. Will be praying for you, that you will have a peaceful life without these cruel intrusions.

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    2. Hi Susan I remember you from the Zaar days I think? Am I right? Whoever this is they are not very nice. I am sorry you had to wear out your finger, but I am happy that you did. It is lovely to hear from you! xoxo PS - No worries about me quitting. I am far too stubborn to do that. This is a vital part of my life which I will probably do until the day I die!

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    3. Thanks Becky. I will be taking off anonymous comments very soon, but will warn everyone first. Thank you so much for your happy thoughts and wishes. xoxo

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  7. I'm sorry to hear this. I am an average person who enjoys your blog. I can't imagine how it offends anyone or anyone could be so awful.

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    1. I guess there are just some very hateful people out there. Maybe I am too happy for them? Or too faith filled? It is hard to imagine! Thanks Wendy! xoxo

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  8. Another point here is that you shouldn't have to alter your work because someone either mentally ill or, has a bone to pick with something you wrote. Best remedy is to reply, tell them to STFU or you know where they live, and will be there with Mr Smith and Wesson and your Pitbull TIny, and afterward they won't be able to type again.

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    1. Well, they do impress me as being a bit unhinged. It takes all kinds I guess! xoxo

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  9. It saddens me to learn of the cyber hate you are experiencing. I so enjoy your blog. If you take it private I would certainly like to be invited to continue to read it.

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    1. Thank you so much for your support Liz! It is very much appreciated! xoxo

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  10. I truly look forward to and relish your posts, they are a such an honest, hopeful and interesting peek into your life that you've so graciously shared. If you choose to go private I would love to still be a part of your online community. Happy November 1st 🍁🍂
    Beth

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    1. Thank you so much Beth! I truly appreciate your support. It is nice to know you would go with me no matter what. Happy November to you! xoxo

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  11. Well, there are humans who simply CANNOT stand someone being happy and you do work at staying HAPPY, Marie. I have come across those too...in this country, at least on both coasts, I have had men accost me verbally...one I was afraid...by the time I got to the car, my husband there, ROARED...and that kook made tracks outta there. So when it happened 2 times in one of the grocery store parking lots here, I just be more careful to avoid men like the plague...I will walk a great distance and a couple of times I asked one of the young men in the store to come with me and he did and helped unload even. So I think these must be men who HATE women...because I have never seen them before...no idea who they were. I must look like some others or something...
    So if you decide to go private blog...please let me know. I "found" you back when you worked at the manor and yours is the first one I read each day!! I try to live by the "seek peace with all men so much as lieth in you"...whatever that needs to be. I have not, however, yet figured out a way to deal with the woman hater, criminal (who used to be a cop) who lives above us here in the upper apartment. The latest thing he does is when it is dark out, he will pee on our dining room window. I doubt that is against the law so our son is working on a better living situation for us. The stress is impacting our health. And you know, we need to make whatever changes in order to have peace and better health, eh?
    Take care...if it gets more, I would go to the police...such a person should not have the ability to be online. I am sure the police could stop it, if they wanted to...they have ways to figure out where things come from, that us ordinary people do not. Take care...
    much love, Elizabeth xoxo

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    1. There is just so much hate in this world Elizabeth. My heart aches at times because of it. I pray for peace every day and night, What a horrible neighbor you have. I hope you son can find you a new place and soon! Love and hugs. xoxo

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  12. So sorry to hear you are being harrassed by some low life. If it continues I definitely think you should go to the RCMP and have them take care of it. I hope to get an invite if you do go private. Were you able to find anything out about your UK pension? I hope so. Take care.

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    1. Nothing yet Janice although I did manage to get a copy of my marriage certificate so that is a start! Thank you so much for your support! xoxo

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  13. Oh Marie, I’m so sorry you’ve been harassed like that…what’s wrong with people? If you change your blog, I would appreciate being asked along….have a lovely Sunday, xo, V.

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    1. Thanks very much V. It takes all kinds of people I guess, and sometimes you just get socked by one of them. I will keep you posted! I think I will be disallowing anonymous comments so that would mean that you would need to get a google account, but that is a simple thing to do. xoxo

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