They pay me absolutely no notice, but I'm having a great time.
There is quite a bit I miss about the UK. Mostly people. The lovely meat and fresh produce, and the cheese . . . oh the cheese. It was my home for over 20 years, and I got used to things being a certain way, especially around the holidays. My heart longs for little pigs in blankets surrounding my Christmas roast turkey and sausage stuffing. Christmas pudding and cake. Mince pies coming out my ears.
But things change and they say you can never go back. I'll wager that is true. Everything changes and once you are out of it, it changes without you. Things are never the same. We get left behind.
One thing I didn't have over there was family and I am so blessed to be back here in Canada and surrounded with my family, which is absolutely "spiffin!"
I was just talking to my father on the phone. The normal place he and his friends go to for Saturday morning breakfast is closed today so they are going to the place that they normally go on Sunday mornings. (Because that place will be closed tomorrow morning.) They do love to go out for breakfast at the weekend. My dad actually goes out for breakfast every day. Normally just toast and coffee, but at the weekend he will splurge on bacon and eggs. I think a lot of older people do that. I see the man across the way go out every morning at a certain time, always in the same direction. I expect he is doing the same.
It's quite good for them to get out and about like that. It provides them with a change of scenery and someone to talk to. My father is quite sociable actually. He did not like the Covid quarantine period at all. I know a lot of seniors struggled with that. He had his cat Princess of course, and my sister did drive things back and forth for him, but it was hard for him to be stuck in his house like he was. God willing, we never have to go back to that.
I am lucky in that I am a person who has never minded their own company or being on their own. I can be quite sociable when I want to be, but for the most part (other than family) I am happiest when I am on my own. I keep myself pretty busy either way. I don't really get bored. I can always find something to do.
When the Covid Quarantine was on I did miss going to church, however. We did have it on zoom though and that was great fun because despite my being here in Canada, I was still able to attend my service in the UK as well as the one here in Nova Scotia. I just had to get up extra early to watch it. It was like having a foot in both camps. It actually made the transition a lot easier than it might have been.
Those two weeks I spent in the motel after I got back to Canada were actually quite good for me as well. It gave me time to decompress and settle my mind and heart somewhat, without having to be around other people.
I will always be grateful that I had a home and a family to come back to. Not everyone is so lucky or blessed. I will never take that blessing for granted.
I did have a moment yesterday where I felt a bit blue. Just about things in general. I suppose it is normal. I had been somewhere on Thursday, and they had shown me a lovely Christmas card they had gotten from my son with a beautiful photo of my grandson, and I did not get one. I did get one last year and the year before, but this year of course, I have not been able to drop off his gift and then knowing that I didn't get a card where others had done, it kind of got to me a bit. And I was sat looking at his gift and I think it finally really hit home that they really don't want me to be a part of their lives, or his life . . . full stop. I am only human, and I confess that does hurt, but like my sister says, I need to change the narrative surrounding all of that. I haven't done anything wrong, and I need to stop acting like I have or allowing myself to feel guilty over stuff that I have no more reason to feel guilty about than anyone else does. This is on them, as hurtful as it might be for me. If my oldest son gets here, he will take the gift over for me. As Cindy says, one day my youngest son and daughter will have to explain to their children why their cousins had a grandmother and a good relationship with her that they didn't know about. Or maybe not. But I am sure at some time questions will be raised, and I hope that those grandchildren will know that I have always loved them and always will. I pray for them and their safety and happiness every single day, and my children also.
My sister did stop by on her way home from work and that cheered me up a bit and then I went out to get some fresh milk. I saw that snack crackers were on three boxes for $7, so I bought a box of bacon dippers, vegetable thins, and wheat thins, and I picked up a frozen pizza for my supper. (I can never go in and just get what I planned on getting, in this case milk.) I also got two lemons because you never know when you are going to need a lemon!
I had some of the frozen pizza for supper and thought to myself, this would have been so much better had I just made it myself! I should not have been so lazy.
So here it is Christmas Eve and I am sitting here with Nutmeg keeping me company as I type this. All is well in my little corner of the world. I am safe. I am warm. I am loved. I am blessed. I have all that I am in need of. God is good.
So, I will close this morning with wishes for a very Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, Happy Holidays, etc. I will not be posting over the next few days. Be happy. Be blessed and love each other. Be kind. Know always that
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Merry Christmas to you. I also love Mary Berry. She is so elegant and seems to have a great sense of humor.
ReplyDeleteSure hope you get the good news that Anthony and his family are coming for Christmas. If so, enjoy every minute of your Christmas. If not, enjoy every minute anyway! Merry Christmas, Marie, to you and your family. Love and hugs, Elaine (in Toronto)
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas, Marie, I hope your son and his family are able to come. But if not, well, we're still in unusual times, and have to make the best of it. We are having a quiet Christmas here, too much COVID and flu around to risk getting sick. We're just grateful to be celebrating Christmas in a warm house with a good meal. And It's 5*F ( -15*C) here in New England. I went out at sunrise to get the paper and fill the birdfeeder and brrr ...it was cold! Best Wishes Kat
ReplyDeleteWicked weather here, hwy shut for miles, people stranded, so many shops shut today, including the mall which rarely happens, all neighbouring municipalities have declared state of emergency and pulled plows off roads overnight. Some drifts of snow higher than the blades on the plows. Thanks goodness our hydro did not go off, but it did for so many others in Ontario. I'm cooking the turkey today, fingers crossed the hydro stays on. We probably won't make it to our family for dinner tomorrow, but will have it on Monday or Tuesday instead. I will probably watch movies today too, work on my puzzle, read and embroider. There is always something to do. Stay safe, warm and cozy. Merry Christmas.
ReplyDelete(((Hugs))) to you Marie! Family can be so difficult, especially at this time of year. I hardly call my mother anymore, every time I do she is so busy - watching the news, someone else is calling her, or she has to go do something for someone. Seems like she never has any time for me and she never calls me. Oh well, I just figure that is on her. We are sitting at 7F this morning. Supposed to be a high of 25F today and 30-something tomorrow. We do have some snow on the ground, so there is that. I have a cold that I'm trying to fight off. Much love and a very Merry Christmas to you and yours. XO
ReplyDeleteSeems most of the continent is dealing with the extreme cold...so we are not alone in this. Grateful for the heat staying on all night. I was thinking that perhaps you might consider starting a little account in which you put in whatever amount of money you would spend on the grandkids you cannot see, then one day, whenever things change, or when you are gone, they might then be given it. And you could make a small scrapbook with whatever you have of them in it...thereby at some point in their lives they might be aware you did care. Or maybe a little notebook where you write them a note on their birthdays or some such...again, could be given it as adults when the choices are theirs. Parents seem not to think about the fact that one day those kids will be grown and the choices then their own. Hugs,
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Merry Christmas, Marie. Hope you have a lovely get-together for those who can get "home." We woke to 7 degrees F and lots of wind - thankfully, no snow blizzards like rest of USA. Supposed to get up in the 50s by end of next week. Go figure - Climate Change naysayers, what?
ReplyDeleteHave a Blessed Christmas Eve, Day and New Years.
Hugs from Georgia
Merry Christmas Marie…and…to one and all…hope the family arrived safe ……and everyone is enjoying…..xo, V.
ReplyDeleteMerry Merry….V.
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